Perhaps it has to do with similar interests you both share. Maybe you like how honest she is, or because you feel respected around him. However, friendship can be used selfishly.
I had a friend back in high school who liked having me around because she felt like my superior. At first I thought she was just assertive and wanted to go do certain activities and see certain movies. I found she liked having my submission rather than my friendship. She only wanted me around to use me to feel better about herself. Needless to say, we did not remain friends for long.
A certain passage struck me the other day in Isaiah 57. God says, “I live in a high and holy place but also with him who is contrite and lowly in spirit” (v. 15a NIV). Notice it didn’t say “I live with him who is high on the social ladder,” or “him who only makes me feel better.”
God looks for people to love and befriend not based on what they can do for him, or how they make him feel. He seeks out those people because he loves them.
Think of this next time you’re making new friends. Love them because God loves them, not what they can do for you.
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